They only reach out when they need help or a favour from you.
If you look at your text history and it’s a graveyard of them asking for favours, money, or emotional labour—with zero “How are you?” check-ins in between—you’ve got a problem.
The vibe: You feel like a resource, not a person.
The reality: Real friends invest in the relationship during the “boring” times. If they only show up when they have a checklist, they aren’t your friend; they’re a client who isn’t paying.